It’s not easy to have the right stats on the prevalence of infidelity, given the secrecy surrounding this activity. According to some methodological studies carried out in Europe, Canada, and the United States, between 20 and 30% of men and 15 to 20% of women would have had relationships outside couples. According to sources, in the United Kingdom, 70% of women who have been married for at least five years and 72% of men say they have been unfaithful at least once. British experts estimate female infidelity at 50-60%. Popular polls commissioned by mainstream magazines or some non-rigorous surveys conclude that about 50% of married people would be unfaithful occasionally or repeatedly, possibly more in common-law relationships.
Some smaller sites and bloggers like DateSmarterGuide estimate the prevalence of infidelity at a shocking 70%! (www.datesmarterguide.com/best-affair-websites). There’s no question that it could indeed be higher than initially thought.
A recent poll recorded in Europe showed only 20% of women cheat. Two to three couples out of four would find themselves, one day or another, struggling with the infidelity of one and/or the other spouse. Yet, when asked, 95% of people say that fidelity, defined as sexual exclusivity, is important or very important to marital harmony.
A team of researchers has shown that the way in which unfaithfulness was discovered or unveiled had an impact on the subsequent divorce rate. This rate is 45% if the deceiver announces it himself, 65% if the disclosure is made by a third person, 83% if the deceiver is caught in the act and 86% if the deceived. learns by questioning the unfaithful. The others live with difficulty the following period. Those who go to therapy do better because they understand why infidelity has infiltrated their relationship, although infidelity can never be therapeutic in itself.
Men Vs Women in Affairs
Accidental on the side of men, infidelity would be more calculated and reflected in women, taking their extramarital affairs more seriously psychologically and emotionally than men who would see only sex with no strings attached. That is why men would be able to have a wife and a lover without too much conscience, while women, getting more involved in their relationships, would feel more guilty, not only to their spouse but also to their children and their entourage.
Although infidelity is no longer a “crime” in the West, men, more than women, would be more challenged by the infidelity of their partner and have more difficulty forgiving sexual infidelity, while women would hardly forgive emotional infidelity. However, people who divorce to live with the Other are very unlikely to form a couple in the long run, only 8 to 10% succeed. This statistic supports the hypothesis that the unfaithful person does not build a relationship, but instead consumes feelings and emotions in love without ever engaging. divorcing people to live with the other are very unlikely to form a long-term couple, only 8 to 10 percent succeed.
This statistic supports the hypothesis that the unfaithful person does not build a relationship, but instead consumes feelings and emotions in love without ever engaging. divorcing people to live with the other are very unlikely to form a long-term couple, only 8 to 10 percent succeed. This statistic supports the hypothesis that the unfaithful person does not build a relationship, but instead consumes feelings and emotions in love without ever engaging.
What about the Children?
Children of an unfaithful parent increase their risk of infidelity; we then speak of “generational” infidelity. In the middle of the last century, twice as many men as women were unfaithful; but since women have entered the labor market, they have achieved equality in this area and even take a certain head start according to certain studies, to prove to themselves that they are well “liberated”. Infidelity is rampant in all classes of the population. Nearly 50% of infidelities take place with a co-worker.
Those who explicitly discuss fidelity before marriage is more likely to remain faithful. Intolerance towards extramarital relations is a majority among newly formed couples, but tends to diminish over time: more than 40%, after 15 years of living together, believe that love can exist without fidelity. Members of a second marriage are even more open to infidelity, at least on paper. Infidelity is found in all social classes and in all countries, including the most repressive.
At a time when the female emancipation movement is at its peak in its goal of equality, at least in the West, we paradoxically witness a hypersexualization of women. Yet one of the demands of this movement was precise to desexualize the body of the woman. The women’s press has never talked so much about sexuality and especially about sexuality, and 95% of women’s radio and TV programs are about women’s sexuality: women’s values are now conveyed by the media. At the same time, many men-centered self-help groups are developing. The sexual desire of the woman coincides with a greater desire of men for intimacy.